Voting is a fundamental pillar of our democracy, allowing individuals to express their beliefs and values through their choice of candidates and policies. However, the motivations behind how people vote can vary widely. Two distinct approaches to voting are voting based on personal beliefs and values versus codependent voting, where individuals may feel compelled to align their choices with those of their social circles or communities. Both approaches carry their own implications for the individual, the political landscape, and the overall health of democracy.
When individuals vote based on their personal beliefs and values, they engage in a process of self-reflection and critical thinking. This approach emphasizes the individual and encourages voters to consider what policies or candidates align with their moral compass and vision for society. Voting in this manner allows for a more authentic expression of one’s identity and priorities…leading to increased holistic (mind,body and spirit) wellness
For example, someone who values tax equality may prefer candidates who advocate for taxing the extremely rich as well as large corporations who all should pay their fair share, while an individual who believes in social justice may support policies that promote equity and inclusion. This type of voting can lead to a more diverse political landscape, as it encourages the representation of a wide range of perspectives and experiences…resembling the unique tapestry of our country. When voters are true to themselves, they foster a political culture that values authenticity and accountability.
Moreover, voting based on personal beliefs can lead to greater civic engagement. When individuals feel a strong connection between their values and the political process, they are more likely to participate not just in elections but also in activism, community organizing, and public discourse. This active engagement can inspire broader societal change and encourage others to reflect on their values as well.
On the other hand, codependent (people-pleasing behavior) voting occurs when individuals feel pressured to conform to the beliefs and choices of their personal, social, community or religious networks. This may be driven by a desire for acceptance, fear of social rejection, or a belief that collective unity is more important than individual conviction. In such cases, voters may prioritize the perceived consensus of their group over their own beliefs, leading to a group-think political environment that stifles diversity and authenticity. .
Codependent voting can manifest in various ways, such as voting along party lines without critically evaluating candidates or policies. In tightly-knit communities, individuals might feel obligated to support certain candidates because of shared social ties or typical family voting practices, even if those candidates do not align with their personal values. This can lead to a disconnect between the electorate’s true needs and the policies that are ultimately implemented, as the diversity of individual perspectives is overshadowed by group dynamics.
Furthermore, sadly codependent voting can contribute to polarization within relationships. When individuals prioritize group alignment over personal beliefs, it can create an “us versus them” mentality, making it difficult to engage in constructive dialogue. This polarization can lead to a lack of understanding and empathy among differing viewpoints, undermining the collaborative spirit that is essential in a democratic society.
Realistically, when someone has codependent characteristics, they may not realize their tendencies since it has become normalized to keep the peace or to not “poke the bear” given certain relationships. However, that’s why shining a light on this dysfunction may be enlightening and helpful.
Voting is not just a mechanical act of marking a ballot; it is a profound expression of one’s identity and values. Ultimately, our health as well as the health of democracy depends on the ability of its citizens to engage thoughtfully and authentically in the electoral process.
Bottom line, our vote is our personal decision/choice…no one else’s…plus, there is no law that states we must disclose our voting preferences…so onward warriors!
Political Humor: While an elephant and donkey walked into a bar, the elephant bragged what a beautiful crowd attended his spectacular gathering at the zoo. “Fact check” Dumbo…they were actually admiring the monkeys in the adjacent enclosure.